Speaking Now Or Forever Hold Your Peace

Welcome to the Weekly Wednesday Survey!  Every Wednesday the Wedding Confessionals Crew tackles one wedding related hot topic and reveal all of our different takes on the subject.   Get ready, y’all.  This group’s got some STRONG OPINIONS!


Is it weird to have the “Speak now or forever hold your peace” line including in your wedding ceremony?  Is it necessary or just asking for drama?

Pam: Who says this anymore? But if they did…I’d love to watch the drama go down, with a cocktail in my hand and a wedding program fanning my face!

Erika: I think it’s sort of brilliant to have one moment at a wedding where everyone is worried spineless Keith is gonna stand up and finally say he loves Vanessa. It keeps everyone humble. Reminds you how lucky you are to be standing at that alter with the person you love, because there is always someone else that wants to be up there instead.

Lauren: The people that hold events and run ceremonies love to hear themselves talk because the line is pointless.  I’m pretty sure if you are against the union and your close enough to the bride or the groom, you have said your peace a trillion times as a means of convincing your loved one they are making the biggest mistake of their lives!  You now have to say it in front of a crowd for what?  Validation?  Get rid of it like Subway got for rid of yoga mat bi products in their bread.  Its a bunch of fluff!

Paul: Yes.  This is weird.  It’s also weird that you’re supposed to ask if everyone is there of their own free will.  I strongly recommend rewriting it to “Speak no and forever hold your piece!” and then having everyone grab their crotch.

Erika: ‘Speak now or forever hold your peace’ is both ridiculous and absolutely necessary! What a great opportunity for drama and comedy! I’d be very sad if this was stricken from the common wedding ceremony and future soap opera writers of America would suffer the most if this tradition fell out of fashion. Won’t someone think of the soap opera writers!!! 

Brooke: No lie – I forced the minister guy to do this at my ceremony.  I told him he had to ask the question, then wait 5 seconds for a response.  During those seconds I glared out into the audience like a crazy bitch.  My friends thought it was hilarious.  My husband’s side of the aisle thought I was INSANE.  They were both right.  I regret nothing!

Jen: I WAIT for this moment at every wedding. I so want that OMG moment that we see in the movies! (And then reality hits and I think about how awful this would be for my friend getting married-but gah!) 

True story: Before I met my husband I was invited to my first love’s wedding. I didn’t have the guts or the heart to go, but the weekend of his wedding I came so close to jumping on a plane hoping to get my “I Ross, take you…Rachel(!)” moment. 


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